Winter: how bleh

Well, as it was the extra long weekend, and along with the weekend came winter.

I am not a winter lover and always find it hard to try to understand why people love winter. The thing that I hate about winter is that nightlife activities suffer. I love to be out on the streets and being out on the streets is not the best, when you are trying to brave the cold.

Then there is the task of the wardrobe. Having to layer 20 million items of clothing and still trying to look good because of winter isn’t the hottest thing. I always find myself looking a mess in wither, as i don’t put an effort in my external appearance.

The number one thing about winter, especially when it comes to my type of hair, is that there should be a proper plan. Ladies usually braid their hair, as it is much easier to maintain. And when it rains, the hair should always be covered. Too much admin for one to do in order to be prepared for winter.

I wish it could be summer all year long, so we can wear dresses and shorts, have cocktails and go for sundowners.

Summer days will be here soon, before I know it.

What is trust?

It is very difficult to count on people these days... Well, people are no longer trustworthy these days.

This may come across as me being bitter from being burnt by other people some time ago, but I still maintain that people more these days are losing morals and just not taking to heart how the next person that they are hurting feel.

I have noticed that people who claim to be your friends are the worst people, and the people that will do you wrong. People who claim to be friends and smiling with each other, but once their backs are turned, the one will then do unthinkable things to the one that they say and is meant to be their friend. Meanwhile the rest of the people in that circle of friends know what is happening, but the one has no clue what is going on behind her back.

Not to say that we should walk around with our heart on our sleeves, but the times when you feel, or that you feel you shouldn’t have a reason doubt people, but sometimes you just never know who to trust these days.

It is a poor idea to lie to yourself

What else can one add to this statement as is pretty much says it for itself .

The fact is, I don’t think people go through their lives without convincing themselves about something happening in their life but translating it to the way that they want to see, thus making it true in our minds. I know I have done this once or more than once in my life.

The most important thing as people, and this may be the problem, is to be able to differentiate from a lie, and then to believe that lie that you have told yourself.

It’s very difficult to change the way in which you think once you have told yourself something, and believe it. Usually the way in which you are forced to change your mind is when your bubble is burst, and then you have to snap out of the way you were thinking, to go forward to more positive thoughts.

We as people like to dwell on the things that usually won’t help us progress, and should really learn to focus on positivity, and to not lie to ourselves, as it can cause self destruction.

Independent dependency

As much as us women like to go on about the fact that we are and should be independent, I think there is a double standard when it comes to this.

Socialising with different types of people, women in particular, we like to be independent, but at the same time we want to be with a man who has money and be able to support us. What exactly do we want then, if we still going to want a man to support us.

I see this all the time when being at the club, and the man has to always be the one to buy the drinks instead of the woman, and some women actually want the man to be sponsoring her drinks the whole night, and will be okay with that.

I think at the end of the day, we shouldn’t depend on men for the things that we can do right by ourselves.

The sound of one hand clapping

The sound of one hand clapping is a very cold and lonely thought, when having to think about this topic when reading it first.

Our body parts usually have another limb to help it do its job. We have two eyes, two legs, and of course two hands. So, one hand clapping doesn’t sound right at all.

I think this topic also make me think that us as people need to be with other people in order for us to thrive and to live. No man is an island, as the saying goes, and this makes it known that we as people must know that.

As much as we love think that we can do things on our own, we as people need to understand that we need others. The sound of one hand clapping is nothing without the other hand and is impossible to clap without the other.

Not all who wander are lost

It is easy to judge a person who wanders as lost, because when we think of to wander, we think of moving along aimlessly without a purpose and with no clear indication as to where the road is leading us.

I’ve had moments of wandering and sometimes still feel that I am still wandering through life, but have come to terms with that we need to wander sometimes to find that right path that we were meant to travel on.

 With that being said, I am a firm believer that there will come a point in life when all of us will have to wander to find our true path in life, some people take longer than others to get back on the right track, but when we do find our path, it is all systems go.

We just need to embrace and go through the motions until we get there.

me

Well, my name is Sanelisiwe Guwa, but I would prefer to go by my short name which is most used by everyone else which is Seni. My mother is the only person who uses my full name, and every time someone uses it, I always tend to think I’m in trouble.

                

I’ve spent all my life in the cape, studied and worked in this place, but I think that my relationship with Cape Town is coming to end soon. Although I still love this place, I feel it is time to move on and see other places.

I  and like to be seen as an easy going person, I don’t say much, but I do think a lot which others say that I over analyse things. I don’t think that there is anything wrong with it, just that I think things through before I do things.

Im currently doing my btech in Public Relations, and enjoying it, although hectic, I find that blogging is what im enjoying at this moment. When I do venture into the work environment, media is most on the cards, with events also, as I love going to events, ie publicity.

I mentioned that I like events, I also love being out on the town and socialising with other people, Long Street in Cape Town is where I love to hang out, but during the day as it captures the beauty  of the city and its people. 

So… to describe the sort of things I like, I would say music, people and good energy. Those two go hand-in-hand. I find that when im on long I get the best of both.

Lack of respect nowadays

I think over the years people are losing their manners, and the manner in which we address people has changed over the years, and definitely for the worst.

Ever since I can remember from my childhood, there was a way in which I can and can’t address my parent, or any older person. When I look at the younger people now compared to when i was growing up, it is a mess.

Children address their parents in anyway nowadays. I see this going on with the children in my family also. It annoys as I keep thinking about when I was younger, and how my mother would have given me a back hand slap had I spoken to her in any way I felt.

I have no idea as to who is to blame on this, but I guess it’s the future generation that is acting so.

How do you step from the top of a 100ft pole

At first thought, after having read this title, I think of a suicide mission, but thinking deeper on this title, I begin to think about taking chances and just letting go.

As people it becomes so easy to stay in a comfort zone and not want to take the chance to try new things, and to just get comfortable with the norm, and that is when we get stuck.

It is easier said than done, but once we try to stop getting used to the routine and to try new things, we may and or will find that there is another life waiting for us out there, but may not have seen it had we not stepped off that 100ft pole.

Life comes with its challenges, and it is up to us how we choose to take those challenges and to go forth to and to get out of our comfort zones to learn more about ourselves.