Fitting in

It really sucks when you are the new person at work...

Te worst is when your new colleagues are not friendly and are tippy-toeing around you, trying to see whether you are either shy, talkative or just a nice person.

At work, there have been a few people who have joined the team, and  I'm that person that doesn"t really talk much and have to suss you out before I decide how I feel about you. Usually this takes about three days to get used to someone and to know how they work and all. Sometimes I dont keep track of the days, because you'll find that maybe that new person was a breath of fresh air  bringing fresh ideas.

You do get those people who are normally welcoming and friendly and all, but i don't thik I'm one of those, but we all will be the new person when we find new jobs, we should the person that we want to be if the roles were reversed.

Andy Warhol said, "in the future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes." You cant choose the 15 minutes but why would you be famous

To a degree, this has a lot of truth to it. The reason that I believe that it is of truth, is that with the technology that is around us, with people being able to have their own websites, their own blogs, and twitter accounts and of course Facebook, it is much easy to keep a track record of someone.

More importantly it is easier to know what that person is doing when they express what they are feeling. This makes me think about recently in South Africa, where Nonhle Thema who is one of South Africa's stars went on a dissing spree on twitter. She went on about how much she earns from endorsements, and how much she is worth, and so forth. This made her famous for about a week. She generally was one of the stars who never had bad publicity, but with this, it got people talking and made her more famous.

They say that there"s no such thing as bad publicity, but do we as people want to be famous for the wrong things? Whatever it may be, if we do get our 15 minutes of fame, it should be well deserved.

nerd glasses

I have always hated the fact that i have worn glasses for more than half of my life and so when the chance came to wear contact lenses, i jumped at it, but i was so scared of them in the beginning.

Contact lenses do make life easier and so forth, except when you have to take them out and put them in.

There was a time where it was seen that wearing glasses was so uncool and so nerd like that people who did at the time were not paid much attention. Amazing to see how fashion and trend setters made it fashionable to wear glasses again.

This trend was seen with the classic Ray Ban frame the wayferers. When these were put in the spotlight, everyone wanted to wear glasses even though they didn’t have an eye problem.

Before this i was always ashamed of the fact that i wear glasses, and having worn contacts for the past 3 years, i still sometimes feel that way, now that ive been wearing my glasses for the past 3 months.

Mandela day

So recently it was Nelson Mandel’s birthday which was on the 18^th of July. And now Nelson Mandel’s birthday is now a day called Mandela day. In this day a person should dedicate 67 minutes of their time to do something good for people who are less fortunate than they are.

It is 67 minutes because, Nelson Mandela has spent 67 years of his life fighting for the rights of Black South Africans, and so that South Africa can be the country that it is today, a non racial society.

Sadly i didn’t do anything for the call, but i do know people whe fed people at soup kitchens, cooked for senior citizens and others.

This is a great initiative, because we can and will always remember Nelson Mandela for fighting for other people and helping others, and so we should do the same.

Oprah show ended

I was super bleak when the time came when Oprah show was actually coming to an end, because when you have a woman like Oprah, and following her life and the things that she has done not only for the people in the USA, but all over the world, and having watching her everyday at 5h30pm every weekday, one cant help but feel empty.

I think there are too many things that one can say about Oprah, but her last thre shows were the best send off, and i don’t think there could have been a better way yo say goodbye to a show like that.

Although it was emotional for some.. .it was great to see how many lives she has touched in 25 years of her having the platform of the show to do her philanthropic work, she will be known and go down in history as one of the most influential people in history.;

There must be something wrong with me

I have always maintained that i have a concentration problem and people laugh when i tell them that because they refuse to believe me.

Whenever people suggest going to the movies i always exclude myself because of that and people find it strange. My mind tends to wonder when im at the movies, and i would say that it is the same thing when i attempt to read a book... i, lose concentration very soo and never get far in reading the book.

I don’t think i suffer from ADD or anything like that, its just that i get bored very easily, and when i get bored, i cant hide it.

I don’t know how to overcome this and i doubt that i will ever, but hey, maybe its what makes me different from others.

30 seconds

The best thing to get over winter is to stay indoors and play 30 seconds with a group of friends. This has been my jam of note this winter time, as partying in winter sucks!!!

Its like the best game ever invented but you should make sure you have a team that is fast and knows their general knowledge because 30 seconds is the most amount of time.

The pattern thus far has been to play 30 seconds every weekend, and we’ve missed one wkend without playing and people felt  weird.

I guess, as friends there should always be like a games night, no matter what games are played because it does exercise the mind but also in a fun way

A song

Amazing how a song can sum you up in a few minutes. Whatever you might be going through in you life at that point in time.

I have a friend and we love the music that Erykah Badu makes, but theres this one song that gets us both in the lyrics, the beat and the length of the song. The song is like 10mins long and its called ‘out my mind. Just in time’

Judging from the title one would expect it to be about a man... yes it is and it is about a girl trying to get over her man, or rather ex-man in order for her to gain sanity.

My friend just came out of a relationship and that song is so fitting and is about her situation, it was like it was written for her.

I guess, music is therapy

Shoes

Man,  i think ive just realised that im a shoe person....

Lately I’ve been seeing some hot shoes out there, but the problem that i find is that although i love the shoes, i buy them,  but i won’t wear them. Lol, how bizarre is that.

If there is any shoe that s speaking to me, and would buy a pair almost every day is a good pair of wedges. I’m not a high heel person, so i find that wedges are the great option because to can walk in them for long and still feel you feet by the end of the night.

Brogues are super nice at the moment also. It just is so amazing to see how fashion keeps coming back with the styles of shoes mentioned above.

Pumps will always be number one on my list, but the tomboy in me will always love and appreciate a good pair of sneakers...

I’ll end off by saying that i bought four pairs of shoes in ne week. A wedge, a brogue, a pair of heels(lol) and a pump... i love shoes.

Losing

We always hear the saying that life is too short to take for granted, but i don’t think that we really take this to heart as people.

Sadly that is what happened to me over the passed few days, having ending my holiday from school on a low note.

My step father passed away, after a battle with cancer a few weeks ago. Although the relationship between him and my mother wasn’t that great, it did really suck when i heard of his passing.

 I think i feel and felt as though because he was estranged with my mom, we lost contact and hardly spoke as a result. Much regret on my side about how this unfolded.

Alas, it is too late as there is nothing that can be done about the situation, but it is very true that lifes too short to waste one day.

Rock journalism is people who can’t write interviewing people who can’t talk for people who can’t read

So when having read this i was super confused as to what this means, so trusting my good friend Google, to find out what this means, i was surprised.

So when going through this search engine and clicking on the sites found, the most of them refer to reporting on music. All aspects of the music industry, whether it be the artist, the genre and the music that the artist or bands are making.

As rock is not my favourite music genre, there are a few bands that are famous in this genre. I think the band at the moment, that may have caught my attention is Kings of Leon.

Although rock is one of the biggest music genres out there, personally, there isn’t much that i associate with it in my life. Although, like i said there will always be that one thing that will make you like something about something, and that is how i feel about Kings of Leon and Rock.

10 most unexpected consequences of being online

1.       Stalking someones profile

2.       Comment on all your friends photos on social networking sites

3.       Fall in love

4.       Receive and forward chain emails

5.       Shopping online

6.       Make and find friend true friends from random sites

7.       Make enemies

8.       Find and hear the best song youve ever heard in your life

9.       Start a rumour

10.   Lose friends

Feelings follow behaviour

I don’t know whether this statement is true or not, but having given it some thought, i think that it does have some truth to it.

The first thing that comes to mind when having given this statement true is when it comes to matters of the heart( In most cases, and obviously not all.)

The example that I can think of is when you meet a guy that you may know, and nothing as of yet has happened between the two of you, and then suddenly you begin with the little things of texting, and phone calls. After phone calls you begin to spend more time together, and before you know it, you develop feelings for this person, and it was all because of that behaviour of texting, phone calls and spending time together (maybe too much time together) and thus the feelings.

That is my initial thought when having thought about feelings following behaviour, and do believe that it is true.

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

We have all heard of the saying practice makes perfect, of which is so true, as you don’t want to become that person that just comments and has something to say about anything and everything and everything, only to find out that you don’t have any experience in whatever the topic of discussion may be.

Taking that in our personal lives, I feel that us people should learn to exercise is the art of listening before talking. As people, we are quick to pass comments, without listening and hearing the facts first, then understanding what is going on to comment.

I know that I have found myself doing this sadly, but I can say that it is not something that happens often.

Using this example of practising to listen before talking, does confirm that it is better to practice a little than talk a lot. 

Cape Town Fashion Week

So we all know that the three biggest cities in the country have a week (rather a weekend) dedicated to show case all of what South Africa has to offer in terms of fashion.

Cape Town had their chance on the weekend of the 14^th -16^th of July.

Most of the biggest names in SA fashion that partaken in was david Tlale, Fabiani, Cosmopolitan to mention a few.

I think this a great thing because, they also give a chance to up and coming designers to show what they can do and show their work to the rest of the country.

Sadly i didn’t go to this years Cape Town fashion week, but i did make it to the Caducci afterpaty. I’ll take it as a consolation prize,.

From what i heard, it was great, i hope to make it to next years event.

Life without the Smartphone....

So, I have had my Blackberry smartphone for about 10 months now, and i have heard from other people, some being my friends of course that they had to take their phones in for a software upgrade.

I’ve always known that this day will come to me, but have been prolonging the situation. As the saying goes, ‘you can run, but can’t hide’ and this is so true, because I’m the lucky one who has had to take my phone in for repairs today.

In the beginning, when trying to get over this idea of not having my Blackberry for about 10 to 15 days (so they say), I couldn’t because my Blackberry is so much to me. I use it for everything, and am always on my phone.

Alas, I got over that fact because my phone was really in a bad state, as it always was flat after 30mins of it being charged, which is no way to live.

It will suck not having to use social networks at my convenience, and also bbm, but I will live. The only thing that I won’t get used to is buying airtime and having to text.

is Cape Town racist

we have often heard of Cape Town being racist and only meant for white people and coloured people. The black people are often said tobe the one who are still suffering not only in everyday life, but also in the social scene.

i have a few friends from Joburg, and are always shocked and appalled at the way black people are being treated escpecially when they are going to restuarants and clubs.

one such place is a club called asoka. for the music that they play there, which is house, they always have an excuse when a black person wants to come into the door, they usually say that it is reserved for people who are on the list.

there are a few other establishments such as that, but mostly people rave about asoka.

i generally have a jam there, but laterly their treatment to customers who are black has been poor. sadly not much has been done about this.

A skill called leadership

Is leadership really a skill? I think so, because not everyone is destined to be a leader. We may not all even have leadership qualities.

But it is something that we can learn and take it into our everyday lives. Leaders should also realise that they should not act alone, but to work with other people for a greater goal.

There are so many things that could be said about leadership, but some of the important factors in my opinion follow...

I believe that a good leader should:

·         Be there for the team

·         Not work alone

·         Stand out

·         Sensitive but also know when to take charge

Not everyone is destined to be a leader, but the most important thing for a leader to know and carry with them is the saying that ‘there is no I in TEAM’

List your top 200 achievements

1.       Being a prefect

2.       First team baskestball

3.       First team netball

4.       Western Province transnet team

5.       Toured Durban with my hockey team

6.       Passing matric

7.       Learning how to play the piano

8.       Passing my drivers license

9.       Being a radio dj on campus radio

10.   Obtaining my national diploma in PR

11.   Doing my Btech in PR

12.   Not being able to reach 200 achievements yet

I have no clue how to count all my achievements, however, how little the above mentioned achievements, there have been many and on top of achieving these achievements, id say the most important thing is that i am blessed beyond measure in life.

What motivates me

When i wake up each and every day, there are certain things that keep me going as a person.

The future, and what it may hold for me is the most important thing that motivates me. The fact that the things i do today and now are the things that will shape the person that i want to be in the future.

My brother and mother also play a huge role in motivating me to obtain the goals that i want to achieve in the future.

My friends also motivate me because at the moment, we are all at the same level and we continue to encourage each other to achieve the goals that we want to achieve.

God is also one of my biggest motivation, as without him i wouldn’t be where i am and have what i have in my life.

To be the best that you can be, you should surround yourself with like-minded people, and at the moment i have the people who are doing a good job at that and also are doing a great job at keeping me sane.

When i wake up each and every day, there are certain things that keep me going as a person.

The future, and what it may hold for me is the most important thing that motivates me. The fact that the things i do today and now are the things that will shape the person that i want to be in the future.

My brother and mother also play a huge role in motivating me to obtain the goals that i want to achieve in the future.

My friends also motivate me because at the moment, we are all at the same level and we continue to encourage each other to achieve the goals that we want to achieve.

God is also one of my biggest motivation, as without him i wouldn’t be where i am and have what i have in my life.

To be the best that you can be, you should surround yourself with like-minded people, and at the moment i have the people who are doing a good job at that and also are doing a great job at keeping me sane.

The elephant in the room

The first thing that comes to mind when reading this topic, is something that is being avoided, but is bigger than big as an elephant is a very huge animal.

When going on the internet and typing this sentence, it says that it is an idiom that refers to the obvious truth that is being ignored and not being addressed.

A scenario that comes to mind is in a movie called ‘why did i get married’ where the friends all went away for a week, and they are sitting at the dinner table and the husband is there with another girl who claims to be a family friend (the wife is there), and everyone knows that the husband is cheating with the friend.

Needless to say, when the matter was a addressed, it was explosive. So we should always address the elephant in the room, no matter how big and ugly it may be.

Every day is a good day

I wish this statement was very true, because the reality is that not every day is a good day. Coming from a retail perspective, we hope that every day will be good and that people will come into the store and we will make targets that are set for the store.

Alas, i say it again... it is not!

Not every day is guaranteed to be good, but with that knowledge we should make the day good for ourselves no matter how bleak it is looking.

We should be able to find the strength inside to pick ourselves up and to make the most out of every day, because we never know when our last day will be, as cliché as that sounds, it is very true.

We should live everyday as if it is our last, so that the next day will be the best day that we’ve ever had in our lives.

Our greatest strengths are our greatest weakness

When thinking about what to say with regards to this topic, i begin to think about myself and what believe is my biggest strength and my weakness too.

Personally, i think that the fact that i don’t say much and am a person of few words is a strength and a weakness.

It is a strength in the way that, i will not open my mouth for anything and everything, only for the things that matter, and ay in turn be of help. And at the same time it is a weakness because, people may take my silence or lack of words and use it to their advantage and walk all over me.

Or this could let people believe that I’m disinterested in whatever the situation is and don’t care.

This statement is very true, but it is up to us be able to realise when our strengths and weaknesses take over our lives as there is a fine line between the two.

Try a cliché

According to the dictionary a cliché is a trite expression, trite meaning very common and most times over used..

We have all come across and used cliché in our lives, sometimes more than others. We may claim to not use them, but i don’t think we notice when we use them.

When i was looking for some cliché’ we often use as people, some examples are ‘as easy as pie’ and ‘there’s no place like home’.

They may sound Lame and boring when hearing them, but without saying the phrase, it doesn’t have the same effect, especially the ‘there’s no place like home’ cliché.

Sometimes it is better to use a cliché as saying it normally won’t be the

Khumbulekhaya

There’s this show on sabc 1 that plays on Wednesday at 9pm. The whole idea of the show is great. It is about reconnecting families who have been separated over the years. Some of those family members left home at their own accord, for reasons such as finding jobs elsewhere in the country.

If the family members are reunited, it is very difficult to see the reaction of the people, because there is so much tension between the parties.

People find this show so entertaining; i have no idea for what good reason, because i personally believe that it’s poor television although the idea is great.

They may have a great concept with the show, but as ive said before, the execution isn’t great. I feel badly for the families who will not be reunited with their missing members.